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Post by Deleted on Feb 19, 2021 17:25:58 GMT -8
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Post by linen on Feb 20, 2021 7:22:54 GMT -8
Oh, yes, life goes on around us in our craziness. I've had some pretty life altering times in my life where I thought, "I have to change." I was very disappointed in myself. You have psychic gifts. And they are strong ones. It takes time to find your feet and figure out what they are and how to use them.
For both of us, when we wanted to change, we were young. Young and dumb, lol. It's only by tempting the rules do we figure out what we don't want to do.
I've learned to love and accept my ignorant youth. How could I know back then what I know now. My parents did nothing to help me achieve success in life. They sure weren't a blazing success. I had to do that all on my own through trial and error.
Nuff said.
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Post by Yoda on Feb 20, 2021 11:42:26 GMT -8
Everything happens for a reason. Nothing is random.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 21, 2021 12:12:15 GMT -8
Oh, yes, life goes on around us in our craziness. I've had some pretty life altering times in my life where I thought, "I have to change." I was very disappointed in myself. You have psychic gifts. And they are strong ones. It takes time to find your feet and figure out what they are and how to use them. For both of us, when we wanted to change, we were young. Young and dumb, lol. It's only by tempting the rules do we figure out what we don't want to do. I've learned to love and accept my ignorant youth. How could I know back then what I know now. My parents did nothing to help me achieve success in life. They sure weren't a blazing success. I had to do that all on my own through trial and error. Nuff said. Acceptance is key!
My parents were very old school. My Dad was racist and sexist. My Mom was angry a lot. If I learned anything from them, it was to not adopt their outstanding negative traits.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 21, 2021 12:12:30 GMT -8
Everything happens for a reason. Nothing is random. yeppers. |
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Post by linen on Feb 21, 2021 12:27:03 GMT -8
Oh, yes, life goes on around us in our craziness. I've had some pretty life altering times in my life where I thought, "I have to change." I was very disappointed in myself. You have psychic gifts. And they are strong ones. It takes time to find your feet and figure out what they are and how to use them. For both of us, when we wanted to change, we were young. Young and dumb, lol. It's only by tempting the rules do we figure out what we don't want to do. I've learned to love and accept my ignorant youth. How could I know back then what I know now. My parents did nothing to help me achieve success in life. They sure weren't a blazing success. I had to do that all on my own through trial and error. Nuff said. Acceptance is key!
My parents were very old school. My Dad was racist and sexist. My Mom was angry a lot. If I learned anything from them, it was to not adopt their outstanding negative traits.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 21, 2021 12:34:15 GMT -8
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Post by Yoda on Feb 21, 2021 13:10:34 GMT -8
She may be in his life to stuff him around (snickers).
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Post by linen on Feb 22, 2021 15:55:55 GMT -8
No judgement here. My x teamed up with my best friend after we separated which was supposed to be temporary. She swooped right in. She knew me and she brainwashed my children every time they went on visitation. To this day they won't have anything to do with me, I believe because of the indoctrination they received because of her. I never used my children to "spy" on my x and his, then, wife. But they did use my kids to find out what was going on in my life. I just believe in not putting the children in the middle of adult problems.
I'm not saying I was a perfect mom. I had so very many issues, but I loved my kids. And I did right by them the best I could back then. A roof, 3 square, clothes, education, and recreation on weekends when we weren't busy.
Yes, it hurts, but at this juncture in my life, I really don't want my kids in my life. They left in 2012 and just to many years have gone by. There is no trust anymore. I do have sporadic communication with the grandkids but nothing major. I was the only grandma (out of three) that would take them in in the summer for 2 weeks and go and do things with them, summer camps, swimming, museums, etc.
I wish my two children the best, really I do. I raised them to be able to take care of themselves, and they do.
As for the former best friend and x they were married for about 25 years. When the x decided to retire, she just couldn't handle not having money coming in. She only married him for the financial security anyway. Anyway they are divorced and the x is with another woman now. I do hope he is happy and this one isn't a bitch. He deserves better.
I love you for opening your heart in this way. Know you have a kindred spirit here.
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Post by Yoda on Feb 22, 2021 17:09:16 GMT -8
Awwww... Hugs all around.
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